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Aha! Moment Monday

So, we’re thinking of expanding on Aha!s.  I’d like to conduct Facebook Live interviews with people who I’ve quoted in Aha! Moment Mondays over the past four years, people like Dr. Jussi Erikkanen, Bob Proctor, Michael Gerber, William Mahood, Kathy Petrowsky Ph. D … I’m thinking Facebook Live so that the discussions are not structured or edited but free-flowing, candid, inspiring and fun! I’m also thinking that would be a great way for us to be (almost) “LIVE” together, and that it be a place where you can add your own thoughts and ask your own questions.

I think it could be pretty awesome to share some “LIVE” energy with these people – and you – and that this could work … great idea, right?

While I am in love with the idea I haven’t been fair to you.  This line of questioning is called “leading the witness.”  There is a level of assumption built into this question and wanting buy-in.

We ask this kind of question in circumstances when we’re pretty clear on what we want and our minds are almost made up.  We might just need some validation that we’re on the right track.  Like this:  “I’m thinking of buying the house in the city because it’s a shorter commute, the payments fit my budget, it’s closer to my parents, I have room for my friends to stay over and the market couldn’t be riper.  Should I get it?”  The idea is thought through and it doesn’t really sound like there is room for input so you would likely agree with the move.

Another kind of leading question is the either/or method.  In my case, “Would you prefer to hear from Bob Proctor or Kathy Petrowsky Ph. D. first?”  Or you may have heard in your workplace, “Should we scrap the proposal or submit it and wait for the client to respond to the questionable elements?”  Your request for input is limiting the response to two choices. (Works great with toddlers, btw).

So, the big question is, are we actually looking for unbiased input or to gain allies?

Aha! ~ The quality of the answers is in the quality of the questions

Asking leading questions is a way in which to share your intentions and rally supporters.  It solidifies in your mind that you’re moving in the direction of choice when people acknowledge your thinking.  But this method also closes you off to new perspectives, enhancements, or even potential pitfalls of which you may not have been aware.

Asking open-ended, thought-provoking questions requires that you be a little vulnerable – something leaders may feel very uncomfortable about (after all, we’re supposed to have all the answers, right?) – but opens you up to endless possibilities when you pose the right questions in the right places.

By asking brief, single-point questions to people you respect, then really listening to the answers, you can tap into an abundant field of infinite potential!!

So here goes, “If you were going to create an inspiring Aha! LIVE, what would you do?”

SERIOUSLY … I can’t wait to see what you think about it!

Send me your ideas – your bold, genius ideas – to jae@jaeassociates.com and let’s go LIVE!


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